About Me

Hey, I’m RaeLani.

I’m interested in how people survive systems that ask them to disappear from themselves.

Over the years I’ve held many roles - specialist, coordinator, manager, director - but none of them fully capture what I actually do. At heart, I’m a communicator. I pay witness to where power prevents translation, and I work to close those gaps.

That work doesn’t stop at the edge of a job description or a strategy deck. The hardest translations happen during the moments people don’t have language for yet. Things like a career ending, a relationship shifting, a diagnosis arriving - these are the moments where people need someone who can sit with them and help them find the words for it.

That’s where the death work lives for me. It’s not separate from the communications work. Both ask the same thing: can you be present with what’s actually happening, without flinching, and help someone find their way through it?

You don’t have to know all of the jargon to be successful. You don’t need the most expensive tools either. What you do have to know is how to ask questions and be willing to sit with what follows.

I come from a history full of rich traditions and stories, all passed down by a very specific game of telephone. It was only once I gave myself permission to observe what was possible that I could see what was always mine. If you allow yourself, you may be surprised by what you see.

And if you find yourself needing someone to journey alongside you - I’m here for that too.